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Summer Update

(written on August 27 - just now posting)

Tuesday marked three months since I moved away from Austin.  I wouldn’t really say I’ve been in Helsinki three months since my schedule has been so crazy, but I’ve definitely been somewhere other than home for that time.  The thing that happens each time I think three months is another number automatically pops in my head – 21.  Probably not great if I’m already counting down the months – if not consciously, subconsciously.  I’m on the plane from London to Austin with several hours on my hands and am hoping I finally post an update or two (or draft them – no wifi which is highly unfortunate).

Overall, I’d say the last three months have been fairly high or fairly low – not much of an in-between.  The highs are when I’ve traveled with family or co-workers or when they have been visiting me.  The lows are when I’m in a new place alone or in Helsinki without much to do.  The unfortunate thing about the highs is that they are probably contributing to the lows – as in I haven’t had much time to set any foundation in Helsinki.  My schedule plus the near impossibility of gaining Finnish friends plus my shorter-term stay does not necessarily equal the extroverted, on-the-go life I’m used to.  I’m enjoying the highs so I’m not sure I’d want it any other way.  At the same time, this is completely uncharted territory for me (and almost everyone else I know), so it is hard to have too many expectations one way or the other.  More on the deep thinking later – but for now, here is a bit about what I’ve been up to.

Mom and Dad’s Visit

I think I posted last just before they arrived.  We had the summer party for the Finland office on Wednesday before the midsummer holiday.  It was on a boat.  Ship?  Sailboat?  I’m not sure what the proper term is….it was built in 1947 whatever it was.  The weather was pretty looking (ie not raining) but pretty darn cold.  We toasted on the deck and took pictures and then went down below for dinner.  No one made it back up to the deck the rest of the night because of the crisp “summer breeze.”  It was a neat time though and a little different from the dinner cruise you might take in Austin.  We went out after and I somehow got conned into singing a Willie Nelson song on karaoke with our CEO.  I apologize for all who had to hear that.

Mom and Dad came the next day and arrived to the beautifulness of June – mid 50s and rain.  They had spent one day there in late June on a cruise a few years back and kept swearing to me how nice the weather in Helsinki is…based on their one day.  I think their opinion changed over their visit.  We had a bit of a hard time finding things to do on Friday as it was midsummer.  I had no idea midsummer is the equivalent of Christmas when it comes to stores closing.  And there are no Wal-marts or Waffle Houses in Finland.  Saturday we took a boat (cruise ship-like) to Tallinn, Estonia.  It is about a 2 hour ride.  It rained the whole way there but cleared up a bit when we were there.  We went to Old Town and just couldn’t really figure much out…parts were pretty but we weren’t sure what all the hype was about.  We took an earlier boat back and checked that country off our list.  We were scheduled for the 8pm boat and took the 4pm.  That one was so bad we can’t imagine what the 8pm would have looked like.  Everyone in Finland takes the boat to Estonia to buy cheap(er) alcohol.  By the case.  And they apparently start drinking it by the case before getting back on the boat.  By now the sun was out but the only open deck on the boat was on the back – where the air doesn’t move.  Guess who was out there? Approximately 100 smokers.  So we went back inside…where the only seats were in a bar where terrible, loud karaoke was going on.  We were happy to be off that boat once we made it back.

The next week I worked while they worked on the rest of my Ikea.  We bought one more piece and I could say my apartment was officially put together by the time they were gone.  It seemed like forever then but of course now it already seems quick and I’m mostly over that trauma.  It was nice having them around and having someone use my guest room!  I worked from home that Friday and we went to lunch in a little town nearby called Porvoo.  It had way more charm than Tallinn.  It reminded me a bit of Hill Country towns that people get away to for the weekend.

The second weekend they were in town we headed to Oslo Saturday morning.  We had nice weather Saturday and froze Sunday.  We went to a few popular museums there and spent most of the time walking around just checking things out.  The Oslo Gay Pride parade/celebration was Saturday and I marched Mom and Dad right through the middle of it looking for dinner J

France

Monday morning in Oslo Mom and Dad left to go back home and I met a co-worker from the Oslo office to head to our Rennes, France office.  Rennes is about 3 hours from Paris by train.  It was a full day of travel to get there but when I did, I found summer.  I had frozen for almost 6 weeks and was thrilled to find temps around 90.  I was less thrilled when I realized they aren’t so into AC.  My Rennes co-workers took us to a nice dinner there one of the nights and I enjoyed getting to know them.  After Rennes, I went to Paris to meet our local accountants.  It was 102 degrees when I got there.  I felt partially responsible J  I met the partner for lunch and melted through that and then went back to their office to meet the rest of the time and was horrified to find they didn’t have AC either.  Sweat was literally dripping from my forehead onto my notes.  Caitlin joined me for the weekend (July 4th) and we had a great time.  It was both of our first time in Paris.  We felt extra special as we took French together in high school.  We regularly baked quiche for extra credit.  Note: we learned very little French then and know even less now!  But, we acted like we knew something at least.

Elizabeth and the Girls’ Visit

After I got home from France, I had Q2 close to keep me occupied at work, and occupy it did.  It was pretty rough and there may have been a tear or two shed after many late night phone calls back to Austin, but I did live through it.  The awesome thing about that week is I knew once it was over I was off on my next adventure.  I went to Copenhagen on Saturday afternoon and my sister and her three girls were meeting me there Sunday.  I thought I’d be bold and adventurous by going a day early and staying/exploring by myself.  I’m still not any better at it.  I guess maybe I wouldn’t say I regret going but at the same time I just don’t enjoy doing this stuff alone.  I ate dinner out by myself and got asked to move tables because I was told to sit anywhere and then after an awkward 10 minutes of no one waiting on me, someone came to talk and I was ready to order and they just told me to move to a 2 person table since I was alone.  I wanted to disappear.  I did end up talking to an American family briefly after dinner from Sunnyvale (where we have an office) and turns out the mom used to work for AMD in Austin. 

Sunday I went back to the airport to meet the girls and it was so exciting.  I couldn’t wait for them to come through the doors – of course their baggage was delayed and they walked through about an hour later than expected, but oh well.  We took the train back into the town and it was so neat to watch.  All FOUR of them acted out the first scene of Harry Potter for half of the ride (confession – I haven’t seen it and had no idea what they were doing….perhaps when I have nothing else to do this winter I will read and watch all things Harry Potter).  Bennett exclaimed “I LOVE Europe!!” on the train and then again in our hostel hotel room.  Yup – we “roughed it” at an “upscale” hostel – it was perfect with 3 sets of bunkbeds and a private bathroom.  We didn’t spend any time there anyway.  It was unfortunately next to a strip club so one of us had to distract Bennett each time we walked by, but I think we were successful…perhaps not entirely subtle, but successful.

We spent the evening at Tivoli Gardens and had a great time.  The girls all loved it and the rides were really fun.  They said it certainly was no Fiesta Texas.  The next day we took a canal boat tour which was rather boring and then went shopping and poking around the main shopping area.  The girls perked up a bit for that.  We headed to Helsinki for 2 nights after that.  The first place we went was the Rock Church which is very close to my apartment.  It is a Lutheran church literally built into a big rock.  Helsinki is mainly flat but has these random rock formations all over town.  We walked in and I assumed the girls wouldn’t be that interested but they charged straight down a pew and sat down.  Quietly.  Bennett whispered it was her happy place and Kate said she liked it there.  Eventually we realized a prayer service was going to happen at noon and I assumed again the girls would want to leave, but Molly said we should stay.  It was such a poignant moment to me.  While they have grown up in the church and I shouldn’t have really expected anything else, I think what struck me was this was her making the call, not being told to do it by her parents.  She went through confirmation last year and has gotten really involved in Young Life and her church’s youth group. 

We got lucky with a beautiful day the second day there and went to Suomenlina and had a picnic on the island.  That evening we flew to Oslo and spent the next day there.  One gem from the week is Molly and Kate had Bennett “whip” all over Helsinki and Oslo.  Molly has 2 videos of it that I’ll hopefully post one of these days.  I had no idea what whipping was until they sang the same 2 lines from the song for 4 straight days…and then I saw someone post something about JJ Watt being taught to whip and nai nai on Facebook.  I’m sure I spelled that wrong… In Oslo, we went up a little North of town to the big ski jump and ziplined down it.  It was a little lower key than we expected, but Bennett got to do it so that was fun after she had to sit out of some of the Tivoli Gardens rides for being too short.  They left Friday morning and I headed to work.  Three countries in 4.5 days – definitely not enough time, but way better than them not coming at all.  When they left is when the aforementioned Camp Hangover set in.

The next Friday I went to an Internations (expat organization) happy hour after work and met some people to go on a hike with the next day.  It was good because I discovered some new trails to run and bike to work on that were very pretty and close.  Sunday I went to church for the first time since the weekend I moved (I think that was only the 2nd Sunday I’d been in town alone).  I don’t know what to think about church.  When I first went in April I was thrilled to find English-speakers and a somewhat familiar service.  Now it just seems depressing.  There are some hymns I might recognize, but they are slowed way down for some reason and all sound like funeral dirges.  There are not many people there and it is a sung mass.  The few I have met are very nice but my Austin Sunday School class has more people than the entire church service here.  I’ve expressed this sentiment to a few others and apparently I’m not alone in feeling that way.  They say “church is depressing in Europe and no one goes.”  Hmmm – well that isn’t great news.

I had one more work week after that weekend before more fun.  My co-worker Erin who I’m pretty close to and another guy from her department came in for work and arrived Saturday morning.  I met them around 11 Saturday morning and think I got back home after 9.  Sunday I met them at 8am and we were on the go until 9 or so again.  Wiped me out but was great showing people around.  Also by this time I was starting to believe summer might actually happen.  Was finally able to go out a bit without a jacket and rain boots.  Around that time too people also started saying this was the worst summer in 50 or so years in Finland (cold and rainy).  I’m not sure if I’m comforted knowing it isn’t always that way or skeptical not trusting it won’t be that way again next year.

Anyways, it was another close week for me but being non-quarter-end, and hopefully me getting a hang of things, it wasn’t quite as bad.  I also did a lot more work the days before close week this time that hopefully alleviated some of the close stress.  We went to some nice dinners with other co-workers and I generally just enjoyed having the company.  Wednesday night Erin and I decided we needed to try Long Drink – something very popular in Finland.  I had decided it was basically a wine cooler in a can that made it manly enough for guys to drink it.  Gin is the alcohol in it and they sell 2 versions.  The wussy version at the grocery store and the real version at Alko (Alko is the place you have to buy all alcohol over a certain% - I think 5% or so). We were skeptical from the beginning but went to Alko and picked out a few cans.  Open container laws were sketchily described to us, but generally if we were picnicking, it should be okay.  So we went down to the shoreline and had ice cream and then long drink.  We split one can in 2 plastic cups and I think I poured ¾ of my half out.  Erin wasn’t much more successful than I was.  It was very sweet – probably not great after ice cream.  Oh well, it was fun to sit on the rocks on the shoreline and just have girl time.

Thursday morning I stayed in town before their flight to guide them around for last-minute purchases.  Mostly chocolate.  We stopped by the Rock Church because they tried to go Saturday and there was a wedding.  We said goodbye across the street from my apartment and they headed back to the hotel.  I had an instant Camp Hangover again.  Not as bad, but it was there.  I walked across the street to my apartment and saw what is becoming a familiar sight in my ‘hood – people with a map looking confused.  I heard them speaking English so I asked if I could help them and they, like everyone else on my street, were looking for the Rock Church.  We got to talking and it was a couple from Colorado and one from San Diego on a cruise.  They were probably in their late 50s/early 60s and very entertaining.  We probably talked 15 minutes.  They were impressed with me doing what I’m doing.  When we parted ways, both ladies asked if they could give me a hug.  It was really sweet.  The Camp Hangover was gone as quick as it came.  No doubt someone above was telling me I’m going to be okay.  I went inside to get ready to bike to work and kept hoping I’d see them on my way out – totally random, and I don’t know why, but I wanted to.  Sure enough when I came out on my bike, they were walking back down the street.  They didn’t recognize me, but I yelled something along the lines of “tell America I said hello” or something.  We stopped and talked again for a minute and one of the ladies asked if she could take my picture on my bike – how cute and sporty I looked.  I had to giggle but rode off to work thinking I will be one of those people they might come home and tell their kids about, or their friends, or someone.  For whatever reason, that left me feeling a bit better. 

I had two more encounters that day that were feelings of “it’s going to be okay.”  I took the train to the area where our new office is going to be (it has a mall) to run some errands and heard American girls behind me on the train.  When we got off, I said hi and found out they were Mormons here from Utah and Nevada on their mission.  We only spoke for a short while but their friendly American demeanor was not lost on me.  I then walked down from the train platform and heard music playing assuming it was being played over a speaker somewhere.  I was stunned when I came to a string quartet playing in the tunnel area.  It was four well-dressed, clean cut guys I’d expect to see playing anywhere other than for coins at the train station.  There were tears streaming down my face as I stood listening.  I’m not entirely sure why, but again I felt like God was telling me I’m not alone.

Amsterdam

That weekend I went to see Caitlin in Amsterdam.  I really really enjoyed it.  While it is definitely cooler (NOT temperature J) than Helsinki, I realize that wasn’t entirely the reason I liked it.  Caitlin is a good bit of the reason I liked it.  She has been there long enough too that she has a bit of a routine down and spends a good chunk of time where the tourists aren’t.  We did go into the City Center a bit as well but it was nice seeing both sides.  We rode bikes everywhere and I equated it to driving in NYC.  I’m a great driver in Texas, but would be scared to death to do it in NYC.  I’m a great (decent? not reckless at least…) biker in Texas and even Helsinki – but Amsterdam is another world!  It actually probably wasn’t nearly as bad as driving in NYC would be but unlike anything I’d done before.  I rode Peter’s bike when I was there too and it was a bit too tall.  So I felt like I was 7 trying to ride Elizabeth’s 10 speed.  Saturday morning we went to Amsterdam Bos Park so I could get a long run in and it was so beautiful.  I kept saying it felt like Camp Olympia – huge wide open grassy areas bordered by forest.  At one point out of the corner of my eye I noticed people in the trees and realized they have a huge challenge course.  Caitlin and I must do that soon.

We ventured to the red light district to check it out and were there early enough it didn’t seem really seedy or scary.  Mostly a bunch of tourists doing the same thing we were.  Around 10:30 people started to get a little more drunk and the best I could describe it was similar to New Orleans.  That’s when we decided we should probably head home.  Sunday was more playing.  WE didn’t get up early enough to go to the Anne Frank house but just added that the list of things to do when the weather sucks.  That list also includes inside things in Paris and anywhere else.  We didn’t go into any of the museums when we were in Paris because the lines were long and with it being 100 degrees, inside may have felt worse than out.  Hopefully Peter doesn’t mind sharing Caitlin once he’s in Amsterdam for good (he has had to travel like crazy hence me getting to steal Caitlin a lot).  I plan to be their Dupree.

The weekend after Amsterdam I ran my first race in Helsinki.  It was a 17km race to go along with their marathon.  The marathon started at 3 and this race at 3:45.  It was the first time my race prep has included lounging on the beach beforehand.  I had told myself all along 17k was 10ish miles.  I trained less for this race than anything else in the past.  I obviously wasn’t going to “race” – just planned to finish it.  I figured I might end up walking the last however many miles and was okay with that.  The race turned out to be long – and was a solid 11 miles.  11 miles is a very long way when your previous weekly long runs leading up to the race had been 2, 3, 6, and 8.  I actually ran pretty well for my unconditioned state though and was glad I did it.

Munich and London

Saturday night at 9 I had not yet started packing for my trip the next day to Munich and London.  My flight left at 7am Sunday morning.  Almost daily, I shake my head thinking how different my life is now.  In my “previous life” I would have been packed way way earlier and had at least two lists for that packing.

My co-worker Crystal was in Munich for work as well and I met her over there.  She brought a friend along for the trip and made it work and vacation.  Munich weather was unfortunately reminiscent of July in Helsinki – 60 and raining.  We still got to see a lot and again it was so nice to be with friends.  Crystal is awesome and provides an amazing dose of perspective when around without remotely trying to.  Monday night a few guys from our Munich office took us to dinner and we had a great time.  They were total characters.  Tuesday afternoon I flew to London and met with the accountants there Wednesday.  London is huge.  That is about the only conclusion I made on that trip.  I wasn’t there long enough to see much but did treat myself to a night at the theater and went to see Billy Elliot.  I went alone and have never gone to something like that alone.  Caitlin had encouraged me to do it and I’m glad I did.  It was way less awkward than eating alone!  I left my hotel at 9:15am Thursday morning and didn’t get back to my apartment until after 6pm that evening.  So while yes, I’m in Europe, I’m still far enough away (and Heathrow is enough of a pain) that it can take most of a day to get somewhere.  Helsinki is also 2 hours later than London so that is where some of that time went.

Last Friday night was another Internations event (they have one big one monthly) and I was happy to recognize a few faces this time.  We had a picnic Saturday with a women’s group of Internations and that was great too – we went to a beach/area at the far east end of the Metro line and it was really nice.  I was pleased to see summer had stuck around a bit longer.  The water was freezing but the air was pleasant.  Sunday I joined a different expat group for a hike in Espoo that started at the Finland Nature center.  We hiked 11.5 miles and there were 21 people there.  I was shocked that many people showed up to hike that far but I guess Europeans are used to a little more time on their feet than Americans!  After that I began my frantic packing for almost 4 weeks away including 10 days in Peru and Panama.  Again for my last big trip like that (Kilimanjaro), I had literally begun the packing process 9 months before the trip.  This one started days before.  Granted Kilimanjaro requires more stuff, but I’m amazed at my total lack of preparation.  It is becoming my new status quo though and so far I haven’t done anything too terribly stupid…that I know of.


Oh my gosh.  This is six pages in word.  And I still have FIVE HOURS LEFT ON THIS PLANE!!!!

I have way too many pictures to post here, so there are in an album here.  Enjoy!

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