Just over an hour ago I got the phone call I had been dreading for a while now. My grandmother passed away this morning. Apparently they had had her up and about for physical therapy and something happened very quickly - presumably a heart attack. Honestly, I do not remember much of what my mom said, but it was something along those lines. She had a dnr, so they did not do anything to try to save her. She had been doing somewhat better after her fall and surgery, but her heart was probably done. She was one month shy of her 90th birthday.
I now have no living grandparents. I guess I am lucky to have had Grandmother this long seeing as some people my age have already lost not only all of their grandparents, but parents too. I never knew my grandfathers (one died just before I was born and the other just after I was born) and my Dad's mother died when I was in 5th grade. I do not like the fact that I did not get more "grandparent time" growing up, but it is not like I can do much about it, so it is kind of worthless for me to really dwell on it. I do wish I knew my kids were going to have a life filled with grandparents, but I have to go on a date before I even begin to worry about that. Truthfully, I am a little jealous of my nieces - the fact that they have four young, healthy grandparents that they get to see on a regular basis. They will have very vivid, real memories of each of them. I fear I will be too old for my kids to be able to have the same. At the same time though, once again it is probably not worth worrying about what I do not have. I do have a wonderful family - two parents who are still alive, healthy, and perhaps the most rare of all, still happily married. I have a sister and brother in law who are parents to the three most important girls in the world to me. I have many aunts, uncles, and cousins who I get to see on a regular basis as well. Most of my cousins all have kids now too - some of those kids even have kids - point being there is no shortage of family around.
Thank you all for your prayers for Grandmother and my family over the last few weeks. I do find comfort in the fact that she is no longer suffering, no longer living in a way that made us all grimace to even think about. We are planning a memorial service of some type to happen in the next few weeks. I hope all of Grandmother's family is able to be there - we have not all been together in a while and it would be good to see everyone as we share our memories of Grandmother.
I now have no living grandparents. I guess I am lucky to have had Grandmother this long seeing as some people my age have already lost not only all of their grandparents, but parents too. I never knew my grandfathers (one died just before I was born and the other just after I was born) and my Dad's mother died when I was in 5th grade. I do not like the fact that I did not get more "grandparent time" growing up, but it is not like I can do much about it, so it is kind of worthless for me to really dwell on it. I do wish I knew my kids were going to have a life filled with grandparents, but I have to go on a date before I even begin to worry about that. Truthfully, I am a little jealous of my nieces - the fact that they have four young, healthy grandparents that they get to see on a regular basis. They will have very vivid, real memories of each of them. I fear I will be too old for my kids to be able to have the same. At the same time though, once again it is probably not worth worrying about what I do not have. I do have a wonderful family - two parents who are still alive, healthy, and perhaps the most rare of all, still happily married. I have a sister and brother in law who are parents to the three most important girls in the world to me. I have many aunts, uncles, and cousins who I get to see on a regular basis as well. Most of my cousins all have kids now too - some of those kids even have kids - point being there is no shortage of family around.
Thank you all for your prayers for Grandmother and my family over the last few weeks. I do find comfort in the fact that she is no longer suffering, no longer living in a way that made us all grimace to even think about. We are planning a memorial service of some type to happen in the next few weeks. I hope all of Grandmother's family is able to be there - we have not all been together in a while and it would be good to see everyone as we share our memories of Grandmother.
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Love,
Steph
I had just one grandparent started from when I was 12 then my last grandparent died when I was in my early 20s. Luckily Jim's grandmother has adopted me as one of her own. It is hard going through life without the grandparents... but as you said you have your parents and many other family members.
You're family will be in my thoughts and prayers.